What's in a type

I love hydrangeas so much. I admire people who have managed to grow these majestically beautiful flowers. I have attempted to grow them myself, on several occasions. You see, growing up, getting flowers I love, was never a challenge. I'd simply grab a head or two of the drying flower, sprinkle the seeds on a flower bed, water, and voila! Seedlings would pop up in a couple of weeks. Not hydrangeas! 

These flowers humbled me! I started with what I know; having asked someone who had them growing in their garden. They assured me, the dried flower would do it. Months later, the soil had not cracked with an emerging seedling. I proceeded to buy a beautiful potted, already flowering plant and transferred it to the ground, only to sadly watch it die slowly.

I still hope to crack the code on the these magnificent flowers, so I am not giving up. I hit the internet to find out more; and to my shock and horror at first glance the reason for my lack of success struck me before I could even reach the second paragraph of the article on gardenandhome.co.za. One of the first requirements is to plant hydrangeas in the shade, away from the heat of the sun!

Lack of this basic knowledge, among others, really let to my failure! I thought this particular flower is difficult to grow, but, I was growing it under the wrong conditions. In fact, the conditions I created, out right killed it.

Come think of it, we often make the same mistake with relationships. We want the flowers that come with a well cultivated and blooming relationship, but not the work that comes with it. We don't even care to find out if we have conducive conditions to get the best out of the people we are attracted to, or the conditions to kill their spirit while we watch. The only way to find out is to ask the right questions. 

You can be attracted to the most beautiful person and really want to be with them because you believe, you'd look good together, however, have you stopped to ask, what makes them look good on their own? Are going to enhance or diminish or even kill their "beauty"? 

@ExclusivJ put together a resource for intentional talking stages. Questions to ask yourself and questions to ask a potential mate to check compatibility. Here's the link for Questions to ask to get to know someone.

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